Thanks for the advice C&CDean. There is alot of truth in what you say.
My son does have degrees from OU so I havent given him money since college and even stopped supplying him with season football tickets when it became apparent that she couldnt attend a single game without getting wasted. He did attend 2 games last year but he paid for the tickets.
The only part of this whole ordeal that is a shame is that his wife wont allow me to talk to my grandaughter when she is at my sons. If my son wants to be a "panty waist" as you put it then he at least should not let that affect his daughters right to talk to her Nana. That is the only thing that makes me angry. Its all I can do to keep from totally losing my temper over that.