on talk radio the other day they had this discussion...
I'm 50 and I'm assuming MOST of folks my parents age (73 and older) basically felt that love of spouse would trump love of kids.
My mom has said many times when she was growing up, adults got served dinner first...hence somewhat supporting that theory, course grandpa was a farmer so that was a part of it as well.
Several interesting views:
1. folks love kids more due to they are a part of them and the bond is permanent....a spouse can be changed (due to a variety of reasons). Is this a catch 22? it became that way because the divorce rate skyrocketed or the divorce rate skyrocketed due to folks loving their kids more than their spouse (putting kids first).
2. one dj said she didn't like the word "more"..use different, she also said she wanted her kids to stay close to her...me, I'm like go see the world...lol.
3. I think most women would say love of children and men would say love of spouse...maybe that's an issue as well.
4. Some lady had an article out about our generation has put children in front of the spousal relationship. I agree.
Personally I know my ex and I fought about this...she always put the WANT and needs of the children above our mine...a lot. *yes, divorce is a two way street and I played a role in it as well...
discuss~