When a loved-one dies..

[12]

and it is announced on a forum, does it irk you when someone responds with a specific religeos message?

Example: "He/She is resting peacefully with Our Lord and Savior, [insert particular deity here]."

I'm a fan of faith. However, I find this less of a comfort offering and more an advertisement.

And no, I haven't lost anyone. I just read such a post on another message board and it kinda caught me as odd.

[Eielson]

If coming from a person of faith, it is almost assuredly a genuine mark meant to give comfort, and not an advertisement.

[SicEmBaylor]

and it is announced on a forum, does it irk you when someone responds with a specific religeos message?

Example: "He/She is resting peacefully with Our Lord and Savior, [insert particular deity here]."

I'm a fan of faith. However, I find this less of a comfort offering and more an advertisement.

And no, I haven't lost anyone. I just read such a post on another message board and it kinda caught me as odd.

It irritates me, yes. The one remark that I find most disgusting and reprehensible is when a young child dies and a grieving family member is told that it's part of "God's plan." Those people should be throat punched.

[stoops the eternal pimp]

^Agree 100%

[12]

Good points by both of you. I'd still rather get a "Oh man, we're all thinking of you."

I guess it all boils down to how you sign the office sympathy card.

[Turd_Ferguson]

Those people should be throat punched.

First, you have to be big enough to throat punch...

[jumperstop]

It irritates me, yes. The one remark that I find most disgusting and reprehensible is when a young child dies and a grieving family member is told that it's part of "God's plan." Those people should be throat punched.

Or the "they're in a better place" along the same lines. If we were all sure of there being a better place in death we would all just be lining up to die. Dying sucks, simple as that....

[Turd_Ferguson]

Or the "they're in a better place" along the same lines. If we were all sure of there being a better place in death we would all just be lining up to die. Dying sucks, simple as that....

Don't be a dick..."being in a better place" can sometimes mean "not suffering anymore"...Experience this, then come back and talk out your ***...

[jumperstop]

Don't be a dick..."being in a better place" can sometimes mean "not suffering anymore"...Experience this, then come back and talk out your ***...

Well it could, but people also use to mean heaven is a better place than our earthly existence. And how am I being a dick?

To me the only dick here is the one who is trying to say "I've experinced more death than you, so stop talking out your ***...", but whatever makes you feel better. I was just agreeing with everyone else in the thread...

[12]

"In a better place" works when they have been suffering, I suppose. But if a kid gets hit by a car, or my sister is raped and shot in a parking lot, I would find little comfort in it.

[12]

When an office friend's mom died, I signed his card, "I think in your general direction."

I'm sure many who signed after me thought it tasteless, but he later thanked me for the laugh.

[hawaii 5-0]

I'm with Turd on this one.

Sometimes death is an end to suffering.

An internet message board might not be a good place to announce a deat5h in the family. Some people just won't take it well.

Private messages to friends might be better.

5-0

[Turd_Ferguson]

Well it could, but people also use to mean heaven is a better place than our earthly existence

Yeah, and I bet that Heaven part just wears you the **** out, doesn't it...

[XingTheRubicon]

Dean should lock this thread so it can go to Heaven.

[MsProudSooner]

It irritates me, yes. The one remark that I find most disgusting and reprehensible is when a young child dies and a grieving family member is told that it's part of "God's plan." Those people should be throat punched.

I agree. Over the years, I've been to 3 funerals of kids between the ages of 14 and 19. At two of the funerals, part of the preacher's message was "If you want to see your friend again, you better join xyz church!" It infuriated me.

[kbsooner21]

I think this is being way overblown. I think posters who type these things do it with good meaning behind it, nothing more.

[SanJoaquinSooner]

[SicEmBaylor]

I hate you so much. I hate you so very very much.

[MamaMia]

Some people feel awkward and don't really know what to say but they try because they care. So what if they miss the mark a little. When you put something so sensitive out there on a message board though, you run the risk of receiving some naive comments, but most people mean well. Isn't that what really counts?

[KantoSooner]

Absolutely right Mama. I prefer to presume good intent and let it go. Social conventions are really handy when the situation swamps ones ability to frame the perfect words.