Originally Posted by
oudavid1
me figure some ish out. Not that im confused or dont have anywhere to turn, but honestly, I just like to share random tidbits about my life and get your opinions. I mean, most of you went through all the crap I'm going through.
Ok, so here is whats going on.
I have a friend i have known since 8th grade. Nice guy. We have always been close and he isnt much of a social person. Not that he dosnt party, he is just not a good talker. He is an only child from a wealthy family. His mom is very nice, never had to work, so she basically stayed at home and managed his life more than most moms would. His parents are nice, but also were always very strict. Him being the only child in all (not like my parents). So his whole life he has been sort of managed and protected from screwing up. He always made good grades and never really got into much trouble. Then, he goes off to college (OSU) and meets this girl. This being the first time he has ever been able to make his own rules, she basically lives with him at his dorm. Meaning she stays over all the time (typical college kids). But not having any brothers or cousins around him growing up, and also not having a lot of close friends (like me) up at OSU, he was really on his own. Long story short, I get a text 2 weeks ago from him saying "Im engaged big guy!". I sorta thought/prayed to God, it was a joke. But it wasnt. My first questions was; to who? and is she pregnant. Both of which I knew the answer too, the girl he had been dating 3 months (and only knew 5 months, and yes. Then in my head I saw the next question coming....he asked me to be his best man. I then realizing how serious this was, called him and he told me he loved her and that he was ok with getting married. He had already told both parents and she was 9 weeks pregnant. I told him if he was happy, I was happy. So i would of course stand by him and be his best man. I recently talked to his mother and father, both of which i have always been like a son too, and they both told me about how they were interested to see what i thought. I didnt lie, i was (like them) disappointed and shocked. Im glad he is going to stick around and be a dad, something I dont think he is ready for. But im really not sure how i should feel about this. I mean, he is my bud, not my best bud by any stretch (mostly because my ex at one point kissed him to get back at me, and he was dumb enough to fall for it) so that always hindered our friendship.
Ok, my real question is.....is ok fro me to think this is a bad idea and just be quiet and let him make his own decisions? Or should I sit down and talk with him. I mean his mind seems made up, but im just not sure about his judgment.
Any opinions?
Just be supportive and learn from his mistakes. 