As a father of two boys (ages 9 and 13), I have the enjoyment and honor of coaching their respective sports teams. As I have gone through the process of coaching the boys, I can’t help but to be reminded of “the good old days” when I was a kid playing sports. I also can’t help but notice a trend in behavior that I call the “wussification of youth sports”.
A friend of mine invited me to watch his son’s flag football game. So, I took my youngest son down and we watched the game. It was brutal. My friend’s son’s team got stomped. At halftime, the other team had scored at least 10 touchdowns and had allowed none (I don’t even think they gave up a first down). I asked my friend what the score was, to which he replied “We don’t keep score, it makes it too competitive”.
My jaw must have been down to my knees. It wasn’t like these kids were five or six years old. They were ten and eleven. If it were a “Special Olympics” type function, I could understand. These were not challenged kids. In fact, there were a few really good athletes.
Anyway, I got to talking to my friend, and he said that all the sports in his area were like that. Games never had a score, and everyone got a trophy at the end of the season. Again, if these kids were playing T ball or were young kids, I would understand, but these kids were old enough to understand winning and losing.
I’ve also noticed this in many other areas, for instance, here in Colorado (and maybe in other states too, I just don’t remember doing it in OKC) all the elementary schools have a “field day” when the kids compete in all kinds of physical activities. Each year, they give out ribbons for everyone that participates in every event. I didn’t even know that had a ribbon for 15th place!
What happened to learning how to win and lose? What happened to “competition makes you a better person”? Maybe my memories of my youth are too cloudy to remember that things were the same, but I don’t remember all of this “everyone wins when they participate” mentality.