Prayers Needed !!!!!

[pb4ou]

My wife's sister, Melissa, was murdered in Corpus Christi last night by her husband. My wife really needs some serious prayer. She is pretty devastated. I'm taking her down to Corpus tomorrow to spend time with her family and to grieve.

Thanks alot.

pb4ou

[Newbomb Turk]

wow - how terrible.

prayers for your wife, her family and you as well. Have a safe trip.

[Turd_Ferguson]

Prayer's sent. :(

[85Sooner]

My Lord, you have gotem coming.. How terrible. Hope they catch the guy. Give your wife my best and take care.

[jk the sooner fan]

wow :(

in

[Hatfield]

will keep you and yours in my thoughts.

[Widescreen]

I'm so sorry. :( Your family is in my prayers.

[SleestakSooner]

In.

[pb4ou]

I don't know whether they caught him or not. We don't know much at this point.

[leavingthezoo]

that's awful, pb. :(

i'm so sorry.

[OUHOMER]

Damn, I am In...

[BlondeSoonerGirl]

:(

[royalfan5]

My condolences, and best wishes.

[RUSH LIMBAUGH is my clone!]

Prayers you got. Sure hope they get the creep.

[olevetonahill]

IN
Give em all hugs from the hill .

[LoyalFan]

PB,

I am fighting back tears. I am so terribly sorry to learn of this.

Note to God: Sir, check your PM box, it's getting full.

LoyalFan
Loyal friend.

[OCUDad]

:(:(:(:( In. :(:(:(:(

[TUSooner]

How very horrible.
Prayers offered for the peace that passes understanding.

[pb4ou]

Update: The husband is in custody. That is all we know at this point. We won't know much more until we get down there tomorrow.

Here is a link to the story...

http://www.kiiitv.com/home/7712612.html

[Mongo]

sorry to hear about that pb, prayers sent

[BajaOklahoma]

Thoughts and prayers for all of you. That is so sad.

[MamaMia]

Prayers from our family to yours. :(

[Okla-homey]

Update: The husband is in custody. That is all we know at this point. We won't know much more until we get down there tomorrow.

Here is a link to the story...

http://www.kiiitv.com/home/7712612.html

I sure hope the children didn't witness the stabbing.
Prayers sent.

[Howzit]

jeeeeeez...what terrible news. so sorry pb.

[PhxSooner]

How horrible. Thoughts and prayers for your family.

[pb4ou]

I sure hope the children didn't witness the stabbing.
Prayers sent.

I think they might have. I'm not %100 sure on that. But I think that they were there.

[Newbomb Turk]

I think they might have. I'm not %100 sure on that. But I think that they were there.

if so, God be with those children.

[SoonerInKCMO]

Man, what a horrible story. My condolences to your family.

[LilSooner]

I am so sorry. Your family and those precious children will be in my prayers.

[soonerboomer93]

I'm sorry to hear about that

best wishes for the family

[birddog]

that is awful. you have to have serious problems to stab your wife to death.

prayers to all involved...

[Sooner24]

I wish there was more I could do but you guys do have my prayers.

[Rogue]

Tragic. Prayers.

[Soonerus]

Thoughts and prayers are with you and the family....

[Boomer.....]

Horrible. Prayers to your family.

[SoonerBorn68]

Thoughts & prayers to your family, PB. :(

[CUinNC]

I'm late, but certainly In....Xtra words for the children....

[OUDoc]

Sorry.
My best to you and your family. :(

[crawfish]

Man, that's really awful. You guys are in our prayers. :(

[pb4ou]

Thanks everyone for the kind words and prayers. My wife is coping and we are heading out to Corpus this morning. We should be heading out pretty soon, so I try to update once I get more information.

[usmc-sooner]

sorry to hear about that, that's just crazy.

[colleyvillesooner]

holy crap.

Prayers sent.

[Okieflyer]

We're praying for you guys and family! Be safe.

[Petro-Sooner]

Very sad deal. Prayers done.

[TheHumanAlphabet]

Prayers heading out...

[Tailwind]

You read about this stuff happening all the time, but this is the first time it has happened in MY family. Be strong for your wife. Prayers sent for you all.

[Xstnlsooner]

Prayer in progress...

May God comfort your sister and the kids and all the family
as only he can.

[proud gonzo]

:(

[Beef]

Wish I could do more, but prayers are coming your way.

[Beano's Fourth Chin]

Found this:
http://www.caller.com/news/2007/may/29/man-28-suspected-of-killing-wife/

What can we do for the kids?

[BlondeSoonerGirl]

They were there.

Oh, geez... :(

[OUstudent4life]

my prayers are with you and your family.

[Osce0la]

unbelievable...prayers comin your way man...

[pb4ou]

We're leaving now, so when I find out more, I'll pass along the information.

Thanks for stickying this thread, BSG.

I'll be conducting and preaching the funeral which will probably be on Friday.

Once again, thanks everyone for your support.

pb - Phillip

[BlondeSoonerGirl]

Don't mention it...

...good luck.

[yermom]

gosh, i missed this

i'm so sorry man

stay strong, i'm sure your wife needs you

i can't imagine what this would be like :(

[Boffingham]

Sorry I missed this earlier. My prayers are with you and your wife and her family

[HskrGrl]

PB you know your family has my prayers!!! :(

[slickdawg]

pb, that's terrible news! prayers sent.

[Ike]

IN.

[soonersweetie]

Wow, I haven't been online all weekend, just saw this.

I am sooo sorry to hear this. Big hugs and prayers to you, your wife and those kids.

[toast]

thought and prayers with your wife and family.

[85Sooner]

Found this:
http://www.caller.com/news/2007/may/29/man-28-suspected-of-killing-wife/

What can we do for the kids?


Ditto!

[Sooner_Bob]

Wow. Prayers for you and yours pb.

Sorry for your loss.

[olevetonahill]

Like Beano said
Let us know what we can do for the Kids .
Be safe

[sanantoniosooner]

pb.......thanks for calling me. I'm sorry I missed this thread before.

The thoughts and prayers of my family are with yours.

Give me a call when you are passing through SA on the way home and we'll get together.

[Okla-homey]

The really tragic part about all this is those children are effectively orphaned now. I just hope the texass DHS has placed them somewhere decent. I've been repeatedly disappointed in state child welfare folks' ability to keep kids safe.

[sanantoniosooner]

The really tragic part about all this is those children are effectively orphaned now. I just hope the texass DHS has placed them somewhere decent. I've been repeatedly disappointed in state child welfare folks' ability to keep kids safe.
The Child Protective Services is swamped and doesn't have the resources to do the job like it should be done. 1 agent has to keep track with a ridiculous number of children.

I don't envy their job one bit. And when they make a mistake it's devastating.

[soonerboomer93]

Found this:
http://www.caller.com/news/2007/may/29/man-28-suspected-of-killing-wife/

What can we do for the kids?

ditto

[tulsaoilerfan]

Not much i can add except i'm so sorry for you guys :(

[OKC-SLC]

Absolutely terrible. Hang in there.

[Norm In Norman]

Crap. I can't imagine. I hope the kids are OK, but I would imagine they will be pretty emotionally scarred.

[pb4ou]

Well, we made it down safe and sound. We found out that the husband has made bail. I'm worried that my wife's brothers are gonna go and do something stupid. We also found out that although he is the prime suspect in the case, that he still has the right to claim her body. Until he is convicted, he has all the rights of the husband over her and the kids.

My mother in law went down to the funeral home today and tried to claim the body, but she was told that the husband has until 11 am tomorrow to claim the body. If he doesn't claim the body by then, my mother in law can file an emergency order signed by the county judge which would make her the guardian of her body.

So basically, if he wants to be a real jerk, he can claim the body and her family will not get to bury her.

Please be in prayer for this...

I'll update when I have more information. Thanks again for all the prayers and well wishes.

pb (Phillip)

[Soonerus]

Hang in there PB, justice will prevail...

[blueyedsooner]

WOW! Most definetly will pray for peace with the whole situation. How terrible to think that he could hurt the familiy yet again in such a horrible way. Prayers sent your way!!

[GottaHavePride]

Dang. just... dang.

[BigRedJed]

Man, sorry to hear it pb. All the best to you guys.

[Sooner Born Sooner Bred]

Is there anything we can do?

[olevetonahill]

Tell the Bros to call Me .
that shat aint right ! :mad:
where are the Babies ? Should be with The grandparents !

[olevetonahill]

Is there anything we can do?
****ing DITTO !

[birddog]

i'm still having a hard time with this one. i mean was there a history of abuse? where there any warning signs? i still can't grasp how an argument can turn into something so tragic.

[olevetonahill]

i'm still having a hard time with this one. i mean was there a history of abuse? where there any warning signs? i still can't grasp how an argument can turn into something so tragic.
Bird !
they where in a divorce thingy and sharing time in the House . The dude went Wacko :mad:

[whatsername]

Just saw this... I can't imagine what your wife (and family) must be feeling. My heart is just breaking for the kids.
My thoughts are with you and the family.

[Sooner Born Sooner Bred]

Saw this online:
http://www.kristv.com/Global/story.asp?S=6578463&nav=Bsmh

CORPUS CHRISTI - Police said Melissa Vargas, 28, died Sunday night at the home she shared with her husband George. Investigators said she was repeatedly stabbed and left for dead in the bathroom.
Relatives of a woman who was stabbed to death Sunday night said the first time they heard about her murder was on the news.
The victim's brother talked about the tragedy with 6 News' Melissa Monti ([email protected]).
Robert Elliot said he was in the kitchen of his Kingsville home when he heard his sister Melissa Vargas' name on TV. He said he didn't expect what would happen next.
"I saw on the news where it said she had been stabbed and we just panicked. I'm still in shock, it's sunk in already, but you know, I can't believe she's gone," said Elliott.
Police say the 28-year-old had been repeatedly stabbed by her husband George Vargas at their home on Edith Street.
Officers said George attacked Melissa after an argument, but it was George's father who reported the crime to police.
Elliott said the couple had been married for several years, but he said Melissa had moved into her own apartment about a month ago, because the Vargas' marriage was becoming volatile. That's when Elliot said George started harassing Melissa.
"She told me about George keying her car and doing some weird stuff, and I told her to get a restraining order. I guess she didn't take my advice," he said.
Police said there's no documented history of abuse between the couple, but Elliott believed his sister may have been too afraid to mention anything to her family or police.
At last report, George Vargas had been arrested on murder charges. As for the couple's two children, they are currently in the custody of Child Protective Services.
Online Reporter: Melissa Monti ([email protected])

[stoopified]

Thank God the children were spared.My heart goes out to you and your family along with my prayers.

[RacerX]

It's hard to believe that bail was available.

****ing scumbag.

[pb4ou]

As I stated earlier he has since bonded out of jail.

We're still waiting to hear if he had claimed her body yet.

[proud gonzo]

oh man

[Sooner Born Sooner Bred]

I thought in capital crime you couldn't bond out. Is this a weird texass law? Lid?

[ChickSoonerFan]

Horrible. All of it. I hope the children are with family soon, I can't imagine them being with strangers right now.

Prayers sent.

[Beef]

As I stated earlier he has since bonded out of jail.
Well, it will be easier for us to go kick his *** since he's not in jail anymore.

[TexasSooner01]

I am so very sorry. Prayers being sent from Houston.

[FaninAma]

Your sister's family will be included in my family's prayers. I am so sorry to hear about her and her family's loss.

[jrsooner]

In... sorry a little bit late. Drive carefully.

[pb4ou]

UPDATE:
The husband has been re-arrested because he broke the conditions of his bail by having contact with his kids. He is now in jail with no bond available until he sees the judge.

My mother-in-law now has the rights to the body. The crime victims assistance advocate persuaded the husband to sign the release form which gives my mother-in-law the rights to now bury her properly.

Thanks for the prayers and I will share more information soon.

Phillip (pb)

[PhxSooner]

That the guy violated the bail conditions so fast is worrisome. I hope they can keep the kids safely away.

[GrapevineSooner]

That the guy was even allowed to bond out by a judge given the circumstances is what's worrisome.

My heart goes out to you all. I'll be certain to follow this story until you all can get some sense of closure and justice.

[8timechamps]

We're loading up on the prayer here.


Our thoughts will be with your wife and your family.

[Suerreal]

I am just now reading about this. Your family will be in my prayers.

[pb4ou]

New Update:

We have met with the morturary to make final arrangments and bought a cemetary plot for her this morning. If you want to send flowers or just read the obituary or even sign the guestbook, click the provided link below...

http://www.mem.com/display/biography.asp?ID=1885925

If you want to do anything, just follow the directions on that link. If you send flowers please include your user name from soonerfans.com along with your real name, so we can know who to send a thank you card once everything is back to normal.

The funeral will be on Saturday morning at 10 AM.

Once again thank you for your prayers and support.

Phillip Barnes

[pb4ou]

Oh and the kids are in custody of Child Protective Custody in Corpus Christi. They are still pretty shaken but My mother-in-law got to visit with them yesterday and one of my brother-in-law's went also and took his two year old daughter who brought smiles to the kids faces. This may be the first time they smiled since the incident.

They really need your prayers. We do not know what is gonna happen to the kids yet, but I will update that information when I know anything.

[sooner n houston]

Done.

Don't know the words to say, just God bless y'all.

[colleyvillesooner]

Hang in there man.

[jk the sooner fan]

good luck on the service, i cant imagine how tough that will be to officiate as a close family member

a guy i worked with in the military lost his wife to lukemia, and he eulogized her at the wedding......really tough to watch

prayers for you and your family at this time

[MamaMia]

How on earth did he find the children? I hope they deny his bound; then the children can be placed safely in the arms of family.

pb4OU, you and your family will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. :(

[olevetonahill]

Mom , Im wondering why the kids are not with Family Now where they belong,
I garendamtee if they were My grandkids Id be having em with me and that Maggot wouldnt ever get close :mad:

[soonerboy_odanorth]

Just an awful awful story.... so sorry this tragedy has struck your family.

God bless, and prayers for the children, you and your wife, and the whole family.

[Penguin]

I have no idea what to say. This is terrible. :(

Your family will definitely be in my prayers.

[pb4ou]

The viewing was today and it was pretty tough on the family. Hopefully after the service tomorrow things will get better.

[OU-HSV]

Wow, I just now read this thread. Sorry for the loss your family has faced and my thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.

[Scott D]

I'm in...prayin that SOB gets fried asap.

[NoleMan]

pb4ou, so sorry to hear your family's having to go through this.

[nytehorn]

PB, so very, very, sorry to hear of this tragedy. You and yours will DEFINATELY be in my prayers! May the good Lord Jesus comfort your family in this time of trial. :(

[pb4ou]

Well, we buried her today. The service went well. Now the healing can begin. The two children were brought to the funeral by child protective services. This was the first time that they saw their mother in the casket. Talk about tough, this one was definately a hard one to swallow.

I have assisted in many funerals, but today was the first in which I was in charge, and was the primary minister. This one was definately a hard one to officiate. There was tons of people there and we really needed a bigger chapel. The were a large number of people standing in back.

Everything went well and we got through it okay. Thank you for your continuous prayer and support.

We will be heading home to Dallas Sunday afternoon and SAS, I'll give you a call to let you know when we'll be coming through there.

I'll see you all when I get back home.

Much love to everyone and God bless,

Phillip

[sanantoniosooner]

Give me a heads up ASAP

Not trying to be insensitive. I just don't want to miss you.

How is your wife doing?

[pb4ou]

She is doing pretty well. I'll give you a call soon.

[Blue]

Terrible. My condolences.

[Flagstaffsooner]

Phillip, although I have not posted until now, prayers have been coming from the Mountain for you and yours for many days now. I have started many posts but I just didnt know what to say. Still dont. God bless you all.

[Mixer!]

Condolences and prayers sent.

[pb4ou]

Well, we decided to wait until Monday to come home. We needed the extra time just to rest and check up on the family. We made it home with no problems. Thanks everyone for the prayers, thoughts, well wishes, and kind words.

Phillip

[olevetonahill]

Well, we decided to wait until Monday to come home. We needed the extra time just to rest and check up on the family. We made it home with no problems. Thanks everyone for the prayers, thoughts, well wishes, and kind words.

Phillip
So how are the Kids ? Family have em ?

[pb4ou]

One of my wife's brothers has filled out the paperwork to try to get custody of them. Hopefully, he'll get them. I haven't heard from the kids since the funeral on Saturday.

[Soonerus]

May God's will prevail....

[olevetonahill]

One of my wife's brothers has filled out the paperwork to try to get custody of them. Hopefully, he'll get them. I haven't heard from the kids since the funeral on Saturday.
At this Point ! the Kids are My concern !
Dayum I hope an Pray that they can overcome this !

[birddog]

amen vet. nobody (especially kids) should ever have to see what they saw. i just can't begin to imagine seeing that happen to one of the people i love most.

[MamaMia]

I don't know how they do things nowadays with all the government involvements going on, but I do hope that the state speeds up on that paperwork of theirs so the children can be with their family. They just lost their mother at the hands of their father. If they ever needed to be in the arms of people they know and who love them, its now.

[BajaOklahoma]

CPS will investigate the brother & family, make a home visit and then decide to release the children.
They will still be under official CPS control for a year, with periodic visits to check on the children - they may show up at school, talk to the teachers or whatever.
At the end of the year, if it all went well and no one else tries to claim them (father or his family), the brother will get permanent custody.

I'm not sure how long the inital checks will take - even with family, they have a list of things to to be checked out.

Thoughts and prayers remain.

[Oldnslo]

I don't know how I missed this. Just horrible.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. I pray the kids are okay.

[StoopTroup]

God Bless All who are trying to help these children...

Prayers for you and your entire Family PB...

[SoonerSid]

Turn my back for a couple of weeks and come back to this.. man oh man..

Count on some more prayers my friend. Feel free to call me when you get a chance..

[olevetonahill]

Any update on the children ?

[pb4ou]

I haven't heard anything. I'll see what I can find out.

[olevetonahill]

Thanks ! Why in hell would they keep em from Family like that ? :mad:

[pb4ou]

I don't know and it sucks.

[olevetonahill]

I don't know and it sucks.
If they were My grandbabies theyed Be with me Or Id be in jail just sayin

[DXDawg]

Prayers and best wishes to you and your family from Dawg Nation.

Things like this remind us that sometimes football is just football and there are things far more important in life.

[pb4ou]

Well, we are back down visiting the family and we found out that the kids have been temporarily placed with the parents of the husband that killed my sister-in-law. That sucks.

Not only that, but they have setup my wife's family by allowing the kids to spend the weekend with my wife's brother about two weeks ago. Once the kids got back to the grandparents from my wife's brothers house, the grandparents contacted CPS and lied to them telling them that my brother-in-law smoked a joint in front of the kids. (Which is an absolute lie, my b-i-l doesn't even smoke weed). Now nobody on my wife's side of the family is not allowed to even see the kids without supervision.

I can't believe that this mess is going on. CPS didn't even investigate the matter themselves, but somehow totally believe anything that these grandparents tell them.

Remember now, these are the same people who lied to the police at the crime scene telling them that my wife's sister killer herself and also lied to the police telling them that she had no family and that she was an orphan.

When those children were visiting at our wife's brother's house it was very clear and they even said that they didn't want to go back to the grandparents.

I tell you, the whole thing is just sad...very sad. Keep those kids in your prayers.

[Boomer.....]

In. Sorry for the bad news. These kids need better, especially after what they have been through.

[Scott D]

That is the pits....isn't there any sort of legal action that can be taken against the grandparents?

[pb4ou]

I'm thinking that my brother-in-law who is trying to get custody has hired a lawyer. (not the same b-i-l from above) My wife has like 6 brothers. I'm thinking that if things keep going they way they are, their gonna go do something stupid. God forbid if the murderer gets away with it. If that happens I know they'll do something.

[Scott D]

I also think there is probably something that can be done in regards to filing a complaint about cps, but I don't know how that might work in Texas.

[NewAZTiger]

My condolences.

[SoonerBOI]

Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers...