My Daughter's BF Asked If He Could Have Permission To Marry Her

[VeeJay]

Sunday night he popped the question - to me. If he could have permission to ask her to marry him.

I didn't know young 'uns did that any more.

Things are moving rather rapidly at present.

[Jerk]

We're you cleaning the Remington 870 as this was happening? The air should have been full of the aroma of Hoppe's #9

[1stTimeCaller]

how old is the daughter? did you kinda expect them to be getting married in the near future?

[Howzit]

I asked Bonnie's dad if I could marry her the other night...

[sanantoniosooner]

I've been married for over 17 years and never even asked her.

[1stTimeCaller]

I asked Bonnie's dad if I could marry her the other night...

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[BoogercountySooner]

My FIL offered me $1000 to elope with his daughter!

[VeeJay]

He's been dropping hints to Mrs. VJ so I sort of expected it.

Daughter is 20 - he is 23.

I've never really envisioned myself in the role of a father in law. I need time to slow down, or back up a little bit.

[OU4LIFE]

class move by him dude....that took stones.

should have earned him a nice level of respect IMO.

[Mjcpr]

How much is he asking for?

[Howzit]

class move by him dude....that took stones.

should have earned him a nice level of respect IMO.

Thanks, but I just did it to **** off 1tc...

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

Did you tell him about the return policy!!

[mrowl]

My FIL offered me $1000 to elope with his daughter!

Heh, my FIL offered $5,000! :D

[Melo]

He's been dropping hints to Mrs. VJ so I sort of expected it.

Daughter is 20 - he is 23.

I've never really envisioned myself in the role of a father in law. I need time to slow down, or back up a little bit.

Only 20? Jeebus. Am I next? :D

[VeeJay]

Only 20? Jeebus. Am I next? :D

You keep wearing them husband hunting outfits on vacation and you will be!

[Melo]

:O

I think I was close to the only person there my age.

The rest was all old guys. :(

;)

[C&CDean]

Asking for a daughter's hand in marriage is classy, but it doesn't really take stones. What would really impress me is if a guy asked if it's OK to boff your daughter. THAT would take stones.

And I'm yet again happy I only have sons...

[Oldnslo]

Congratulations?

[soonerbrat]

I hope you said no.

20 is too young.

[1stTimeCaller]

A friend of mine flew from FW to Corpus to ask his girlfriend's dad if it was OK. The jackass said no that he wasn't good enough to marry his daughter. My buddy waited a few months and popped the question to his girlfriend. Her dad was mad because my friend didn't get his permission first.

After the wedding the assclown told my buddy that he was sorry for treating him like crap all the years that he dated his daughter but now that he was a part of the family the dad liked him.

[proud gonzo]

hmm.... I'm not crazy about the whole dude asking the parents' permission first thing.

[Okieflyer]

At least he's off to a good start.

[VeeJay]

20 may be too young for many, but it's not for others.

My mom was 19, my dad 22 when they got married, and they're getting ready to mark 53 years on 12/26. Of course, there's a lot of difference between 1953 and 2006. But I can't say "No, you're too young."

If I tried to get in their way, she'd find a way to make it happen - and I'd end up with a good kid for a son-in-law who wouldn't have anything to do with me. I was actually flattered he did ask me - it showed a measure of respect for me as the parent. And my 20 year old has only lived with us for 2 1/2 years. I didn't raise her in the traditional sense, and her mom apparently hasn't been included in this.

My daughter's mom hasn't been very pleasant about things since my daughter came to live with us. And this is not a "I'm the preferred parent" thing, but I am pleased my daughter and her beau think enough of me as a parent to include me.

[OU4LIFE]

hmm.... I'm not crazy about the whole dude asking the parents' permission first thing.


why do you hate traditionalism?

[proud gonzo]

because some traditions are stupid

[OU4LIFE]

picky

[OUDoc]

I asked my FIL, though if he'd said "no" it wouldn't have changed anything. It was more a sign of respect than an actual question. Plus, my wife had been married once before, so I think his shock was long gone.

[Pricetag]

I regret not asking my father-in-law. We'd been dating for almost five years, so it was a forgone conclusion to everyone, but if I had it to do again, I'd make the gesture.

[sanantoniosooner]

My wife was 18 and I was 20.

I don't know if I would recommend it at that age for very many people. A few are ready. They should wait on kids for a few years though.

We waited 3 years for the first kid.

[Mjcpr]

My wife was 18 and I was 20.

I don't know if I would recommend it at that age for very many people. A few are ready. They should wait on kids for a few years though.

We waited 3 years for the first kid.

I heard if you get married too young that later you get rejected a lot. Is that true?

[sanantoniosooner]

I regret not asking my father-in-law. We'd been dating for almost five years, so it was a forgone conclusion to everyone, but if I had it to do again, I'd make the gesture.
it was the same with us. We dated three years and I wasn't kidding that I never asked. We just started talking about it one day and neither of us chickened out :D

That's commitment to a dare.

[OUDoc]

My wife was 34, I was 31. In hindsight, we were too young. :D

[Howzit]

I heard if you get married too young that later you get rejected a lot. Is that true?

I heard it makes one post in a returded way.

[sanantoniosooner]

I heard if you get married too young that later you get rejected a lot. Is that true?
As long as wives continue to be female, the possibility of rejection can happen at any moment.

[Mjcpr]

As long as wives continue to be female, the possibility of rejection can happen at any moment.

Well, they don't have to be. Do they Howzit?

[1stTimeCaller]

Ruuuuuuby, don't take your love to town.

[colleyvillesooner]

because some traditions are stupid

Like somebody else said, it's not so much permission, it's a respect thing.

I did it and I'm glad I did. I could tell he was glad I did too.

[sanantoniosooner]

Dean ravaged his soon to be MIL and just said "I'm keeping that one."

[Howzit]

Well, they don't have to be. Do they Howzit?

Sorry, Pat, with me they do. The answer is still no.

[BigRedJed]

Tell him to ask you again when she's 25 and you'll consider it, but you'd prefer they wait until 30. You'll be doing them BOTH a favor.

[C&CDean]

Dean ravaged his soon to be MIL and just said "I'm keeping that one."

No, but I thought about it. Back in the day, she was a looker.

[Viking Kitten]

No, but I thought about it. Back in the day, she was a looker.

And you wonder why FIL dropped a chainsaw on you.

[C&CDean]

And you wonder why FIL dropped a chainsaw on you.

Nope, I never wondered. In fact, my wife's sister said "dad finally got you back for ****ing his daughter." True story.

[OU4LIFE]

on the way out of the tree, Dean was heard to say "sthat all you got old man?"

[LilSooner]

Poor Rhino.

Not only did he ask my biological father, he asked my adopted father, my mom and my grandparents before popping the big question.

I wanted him to think about it long and hard before he decided to ask to make sure he was really certain.

I'm a crazy beyonce.

[C&CDean]

You adopted a father? How does that work?

[Frozen Sooner]

it was the same with us. We dated three years and I wasn't kidding that I never asked. We just started talking about it one day and neither of us chickened out :D

That's commitment to a dare.

Did the words "triple" or "dog" enter into the conversation? Because if they did, that's pretty awesome.

I would never think about asking a girl to marry me without asking her father's permission. I'd let her know that I was going to ask for permission, though.

Then I'd completely disregard whatever the old fart said.

[sanantoniosooner]

Did the words "triple" or "dog" enter into the conversation? Because if they did, that's pretty awesome.

I would never think about asking a girl to marry me without asking her father's permission. I'd let her know that I was going to ask for permission, though.

Then I'd completely disregard whatever the old fart said.
Pretty much everybody "just knew" we were getting married. Even her parents.

My dad wasn't as excited.:O

[LilSooner]

You adopted a father? How does that work?

Spelling is hard shut up!

adoptive father

[Mjcpr]

Poor Rhino.

Not only did he ask my biological father, he asked my adopted father, my mom and my grandparents before popping the big question.

He was just hoping someone would say no.

:D

[IB4OU2]

My wife's father's shotgun barrell poking in my rib cage indicated a resounding "yes" from him...I'll never forget THAT day. :D

[jrsooner]

Sunday night he popped the question - to me. If he could have permission to ask her to marry him.I didn't ask for permission, I just asked if we could have his blessing on the marriage. Why give the future father in law a chance to say "no". :)

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I always ask the Dad if it is allright for me to have sex with his little princess...i feel it creates a bond....jail bond :(

[OUHOMER]

Got married when I was 18, she was 16. FIL would have killed me if he could have got me alone. Been married going on 30 years. It took 20 years to get the old fart to like me.

And no I did not ask, We just told him we were getting married for reason we will not discuss here.:eek:

[sportsguy75]

Well I gotta agree it was a pretty classy thing to do this day and age. Congrats and it sounds like she's found a pretty decent guy.

[OUinFLA]

My wife was 34, I was 31. In hindsight, we were too young. :D

Holy Crap, us too. Same ages.

I didnt meet my FIL until he flew down for the wedding, he said, "Finally". and gave me a big hug and a bottle of Jack Daniels. We hit it off pretty quickly.