proudsoonergal
8/19/2006, 12:33 PM
I need to vent....I'll try to give the really condensed version.....
I live in a rented house with two guys - my boyfriend and his oldest guy friend (he's like a brother to me). We've had this arrangement for over two years, now....prior to this, the guy friend was living rent free in my apartment (he came to visit from another state, and never left).
So, for the last year, the guy had been dating a girl ("A") long distance. About three months ago, the guy starts cheating on her with another girl ("B"). The B girl was also cheating; B girl's BF finds out, and kicks her out of his house (they had been living together). The roommate tells me and the BF (around mid or end of May) that the B girl needs a place to crash for awhile so she can find something permanent. That's fine - the BF and I have no problem with helping someone out.
Over a month later, at the end of June, the BF and I talked to both the roommate and B girl, and were told she was going to need until the "beginning of August." Okay. About three weeks later, at the end of July, I talked to the roommate again, and was told B girl was moving out "on the 15th of August."
August 15th came and went. BF and I were out of town, and didn't get back until Thursday. We get home, and nothing had changed - her stuff was still here, with no sign of moving.
So, last night, we tell the guy and B girl that she has until noon today to find a new place to live. She is upset, but generally understanding (I think). The guy, however, pays lip service to our patience and understanding, but at the end of the discussion attempts to make us feel really guilty with a sob story about trying to find a place. He also doesn't like that we made a household decision without talking to him first.
We let this girl live at our house RENT FREE and BILL FREE for three months. At no time did the roommate or B girl approach me or the BF and tell us what was going on - every time we talked, BF or I initiated the conversation, and had to ask.
So, here's the deal: I feel taken advantaged of by the roommate, I feel guilty about kicking the girl out, and am really irritated that I feel guilty about it.
I live in a rented house with two guys - my boyfriend and his oldest guy friend (he's like a brother to me). We've had this arrangement for over two years, now....prior to this, the guy friend was living rent free in my apartment (he came to visit from another state, and never left).
So, for the last year, the guy had been dating a girl ("A") long distance. About three months ago, the guy starts cheating on her with another girl ("B"). The B girl was also cheating; B girl's BF finds out, and kicks her out of his house (they had been living together). The roommate tells me and the BF (around mid or end of May) that the B girl needs a place to crash for awhile so she can find something permanent. That's fine - the BF and I have no problem with helping someone out.
Over a month later, at the end of June, the BF and I talked to both the roommate and B girl, and were told she was going to need until the "beginning of August." Okay. About three weeks later, at the end of July, I talked to the roommate again, and was told B girl was moving out "on the 15th of August."
August 15th came and went. BF and I were out of town, and didn't get back until Thursday. We get home, and nothing had changed - her stuff was still here, with no sign of moving.
So, last night, we tell the guy and B girl that she has until noon today to find a new place to live. She is upset, but generally understanding (I think). The guy, however, pays lip service to our patience and understanding, but at the end of the discussion attempts to make us feel really guilty with a sob story about trying to find a place. He also doesn't like that we made a household decision without talking to him first.
We let this girl live at our house RENT FREE and BILL FREE for three months. At no time did the roommate or B girl approach me or the BF and tell us what was going on - every time we talked, BF or I initiated the conversation, and had to ask.
So, here's the deal: I feel taken advantaged of by the roommate, I feel guilty about kicking the girl out, and am really irritated that I feel guilty about it.