an "interesting" Thanksgiving meal looms...

[ouwasp]

Oh, the meal itself will be right out of a Norman Rockwell image, that's not what I meant...

But the potential for a volatile situation is gonna be there. I'm conflicted whether to feel anticipation or dread. I predict all will go well. But...

My elderly dad is an old time Baptist deacon. Republican. A decent man, yet set in his ways. I'm pretty much a carbon copy of him, but a little more moderate. My wife and kids will be at dinner with us.

My older brother is bringing a lady for the 1st time I can remember to Thanksgiving. She's been living with bro for the last several months, but my Dad is not aware of this. He would have issues if he knew. It gets better... this lady may be bringing her adult lesbian daughter with them.

So we hope to steer conversation clear of potential land mines. This will prove difficult, as Dad likes to talk politics and morality. If all at the table agree with him, all is well. He considers silence acceptable, but troubling... although it does give him more time to tell stories. He really enjoys telling stories about his yrs as a classroom teacher and coach. Or his stint in the army. Or how great my mom is.

So the plan is to try and keep him going along those lines and hopefully avoid the sensitive areas. But I'm going to try and be prepared to enjoy the dinner no matter what. No telling how many more we'll get with the whole family together...

[SicEmBaylor]

This pales in comparison with my cousin's new boyfriend. I hate to go into details but, suffice it to say, I have banned him from setting foot in my home as has my grandmother who usually fixes our Thanksgiving dinner. She's determined to bring him anyway. I don't know what the latest is, but it has pretty much put a dark cloud over not only Thanksgiving but Christmas as well.

[olevetonahill]

Just cause some one Brings a Person thats NOT particularly WANTED dont mean ya have to let em in. The ones who know the situation and Insist anyway Are the Problem.
Wasp Make sure Dad knows ahead of time, If it was ME and some one sprung it on Me I'd be more POed about the Sneakin around than I wouldwho was there.

Sic, Simply tell em Leave the Unwanted or go to a Restaurant if they want to spend that time with the person.


My house My Rules, Dont like it? **** off dip ****.

[Turd_Ferguson]

Just cause some one Brings a Person thats NOT particularly WANTED dont mean ya have to let em in. The ones who know the situation and Insist anyway Are the Problem.
Wasp Make sure Dad knows ahead of time, If it was ME and some one sprung it on Me I'd be more POed about the Sneakin around than I wouldwho was there.

Sic, Simply tell em Leave the Unwanted or go to a Restaurant if they want to spend that time with the person.


My house My Rules, Dont like it? **** off dip ****.

^^^^^^^^^^^^This!

Now, get off my ****'n lawn!

[achiro]

Yep, tell dad.

[ouwasp]

You know, I tend to agree. But yesterday while my mom and I were shopping at a grocery store, she assured me that the day Dad finds out is the day she moves in with me! I think the situation is manageable, esp if the daughter doesn't show...

I don't care for the deception either. It's just one of those awkward family situations that one hears about; this time it's my family. Could be a lot worse I suppose.

[olevetonahill]

You know, I tend to agree. But yesterday while my mom and I were shopping at a grocery store, she assured me that the day Dad finds out is the day she moves in with me! I think the situation is manageable, esp if the daughter doesn't show...

I don't care for the deception either. It's just one of those awkward family situations that one hears about; this time it's my family. Could be a lot worse I suppose.


If I were dad and I found out YOU and her Hid that from ME> That be the day She Makes to move also.
Yall do yer thang I hope and Pray it all works out,

I wouldnt have a Prob with it Myself , And you may be selling yer Dad short also. A Lot of folks think Im a Racist Homophobe but I aint. I just really like sick Jokes:wink:

[Soonerjeepman]

This pales in comparison with my cousin's new boyfriend. I hate to go into details but, suffice it to say, I have banned him from setting foot in my home as has my grandmother who usually fixes our Thanksgiving dinner. She's determined to bring him anyway. I don't know what the latest is, but it has pretty much put a dark cloud over not only Thanksgiving but Christmas as well.

take it your cousin is a HIM? lol

[Soonerjeepman]

Yeah, just love Dysfunctional Thanksgivings....

crap ours went from a semi-normal 4 boys, 3 married with kids, 1 girl (gay sister)...to 4 boys, 3 D, 1 Married, 1 girl (sis no partner this yr)...FUN FUN FUN!!!!

My kids went to Vegas to see the married uncle...the other 2 bro are heading to Vegas (one has a son there) me at GF...sis going to Okla to see family that "accepts" her..mom/dad...I invited to GF's (we've dated a yr and half) but doubt they'll come.

Sorry to hi-jack thread...I'd say no tell....just let it go for now.

[olevetonahill]

Yeah, just love Dysfunctional Thanksgivings....

crap ours went from a semi-normal 4 boys, 3 married with kids, 1 girl (gay sister)...to 4 boys, 3 D, 1 Married, 1 girl (sis no partner this yr)...FUN FUN FUN!!!!

My kids went to Vegas to see the married uncle...the other 2 bro are heading to Vegas (one has a son there) me at GF...sis going to Okla to see family that "accepts" her..mom/dad...I invited to GF's (we've dated a yr and half) but doubt they'll come.

Sorry to hi-jack thread...I'd say no tell....just let it go for now.

That is ****ed up LOL Its runs in ALL Family's tho

In Wasps spot If I was dad Id want to Know and I would be POed when I find out Later or even that Day. Trust me he will find out.

Heres the way I see it. I had a GF once who wanted to intro me to her son, I said No Prob, She sai You aint gonna Like it I ax her Why? She said hes Ghey! I busted out laughin she got mad and wanted to know what was Funny, I told here I dint GAS what he was as Long as dint do it front of me.

Now heres the deal IMHO about Wasp's dad. IF he really is that Hard core about em then he needs to Know and be warned so he dont Ruin it for everyone WHEN he do find out
Beside Im assuming this is HIS House, HIS Food and HIS Table. Like I said HIS Rules

But thats just ME. Prolly why I usually go to my sisters or Just heat up a can of soup If Ive pissed her off that year LOL

[C&CDean]

I've got an interesting one coming up myself. One of my cousin's sons and his family just moved to OKC and semi-invited themselves to our place for Thanksgiving. I've never met him, but his dad is something else. He's also kind of invited himself to go hunting on my place (my mom told him "oh Dean will be happy to let you hunt"). We'll have my mom in from Arizona, my brother from Colorado, and a buttload of kids/spouses/grandkids/etc. as well. For the first time in about 6 years we won't have Dave there (RIP brother).

I'll be spending most of the rest of the week in the woods with my brother escaping the crazy in the house.

[stoops the eternal pimp]

What time is dinner dean? We'll be there around 3 am.

[C&CDean]

What time is dinner dean? We'll be there around 3 am.

Axe momma. And your tent is already pitched next to the cess pool out back. Even installed a diving board for you.

[stoops the eternal pimp]

Are we reenacting Brokeback in the tent again? 3 times is enough.

[C&CDean]

Are we reenacting Brokeback in the tent again? 3 times is enough.

You mean it's the charm, not "enough" don't you?

[Soonerjeepman]

What time is dinner dean? We'll be there around 3 am.

no ****...and I'll bring my gun as well...what we huntin? :friendly_wink:

[C&CDean]

no ****...and I'll bring my gun as well...what we huntin? :friendly_wink:

cans.

[badger]

Last year's Thanksgiving with two 1-year-olds (ish) was interesting. This year's with two 2-year-olds (ish) will have everyone begging for naptime

I've already sent toys up to my parents house so they'll be doing that instead of trying to see how high they can jump on the sofas and what furniture they can climb (although there will probably be some of that too). Hopefully it won't be too freezing out so they can run around in the backyard instead of running around older family members.

Worried about politics? Worried about awkward get togethers? Get a few toddlers and watch as all ears and eyes gravitate toward what cute things they will attempt to say next.

Elder statesman of the household: Bill Clinton was a community and Obama is a socialist...
Toddler: ELLL PHANT!
Family: She's trying to say elephant! Say it again!

[Soonerjeepman]

cans.

sweet!

[Soonerjeepman]

Last year's Thanksgiving with two 1-year-olds (ish) was interesting. This year's with two 2-year-olds (ish) will have everyone begging for naptime

I've already sent toys up to my parents house so they'll be doing that instead of trying to see how high they can jump on the sofas and what furniture they can climb (although there will probably be some of that too). Hopefully it won't be too freezing out so they can run around in the backyard instead of running around older family members.

Worried about politics? Worried about awkward get togethers? Get a few toddlers and watch as all ears and eyes gravitate toward what cute things they will attempt to say next.

Elder statesman of the household: Bill Clinton was a community and Obama is a socialist...
Toddler: ELLL PHANT!
Family: She's trying to say elephant! Say it again!

lol...at least she's saying Elephant and not jacka$$...lol

[8timechamps]

Oh, the meal itself will be right out of a Norman Rockwell image, that's not what I meant...

But the potential for a volatile situation is gonna be there. I'm conflicted whether to feel anticipation or dread. I predict all will go well. But...

My elderly dad is an old time Baptist deacon. Republican. A decent man, yet set in his ways. I'm pretty much a carbon copy of him, but a little more moderate. My wife and kids will be at dinner with us.

My older brother is bringing a lady for the 1st time I can remember to Thanksgiving. She's been living with bro for the last several months, but my Dad is not aware of this. He would have issues if he knew. It gets better... this lady may be bringing her adult lesbian daughter with them.

So we hope to steer conversation clear of potential land mines. This will prove difficult, as Dad likes to talk politics and morality. If all at the table agree with him, all is well. He considers silence acceptable, but troubling... although it does give him more time to tell stories. He really enjoys telling stories about his yrs as a classroom teacher and coach. Or his stint in the army. Or how great my mom is.

So the plan is to try and keep him going along those lines and hopefully avoid the sensitive areas. But I'm going to try and be prepared to enjoy the dinner no matter what. No telling how many more we'll get with the whole family together...

THIS is what makes Thanksgiving so fun/horrible.

YOU are gonna be fine regardless, but your brother could be in for a rough meal. If I were in your shoes, I would do my best to steer clear of potential controversy, but otherwise enjoy the show.

[8timechamps]

Last year's Thanksgiving with two 1-year-olds (ish) was interesting. This year's with two 2-year-olds (ish) will have everyone begging for naptime

I've already sent toys up to my parents house so they'll be doing that instead of trying to see how high they can jump on the sofas and what furniture they can climb (although there will probably be some of that too). Hopefully it won't be too freezing out so they can run around in the backyard instead of running around older family members.

Worried about politics? Worried about awkward get togethers? Get a few toddlers and watch as all ears and eyes gravitate toward what cute things they will attempt to say next.

Elder statesman of the household: Bill Clinton was a community and Obama is a socialist...
Toddler: ELLL PHANT!
Family: She's trying to say elephant! Say it again!

Young kids are the BEST buffer at the holidays. Enjoy it while you have it.

[badger]

lol...at least she's saying Elephant and not jacka$$...lol

daycare tried to say that she said a bad word about a month or two ago. She has since learned how to say "fork" "shirt" and "shorts" with a bit more clarity, lest someone think her parents have potty mouths :eek:


Young kids are the BEST buffer at the holidays. Enjoy it while you have it.

They are on so many levels. Works at church too :)

[olevetonahill]

cans.

I got them, What time ya want me there?

[SanJoaquinSooner]

Y' all sure are intolerable.

The rule should be "no lesbian behavior" in my house, rather than "no lesbians allowed." She is who she is.

[SicEmBaylor]

take it your cousin is a HIM? lol

Nope, my cousin is a woman.

[olevetonahill]

Y' all sure are intolerable.

The rule should be "no lesbian behavior" in my house, rather than "no lesbians allowed." She is who she is.

Aint US, Its Wasps Dad who may be the Intolerant one. Ima sayin If Its His House and Hise Food and he dont want the Lesbo broad chewing on His turkey breast then thats HIS right and every one should Homnor that, OR not show Simple.

[ouwasp]

THIS is what makes Thanksgiving so fun/horrible.

YOU are gonna be fine regardless, but your brother could be in for a rough meal. If I were in your shoes, I would do my best to steer clear of potential controversy, but otherwise enjoy the show.

Thanks 8time, that's the plan. Wife and I were talkin' table strategy on the way home from OKC a bit ago. The funny thing as far as the lesbo daughter goes... Dad is the one that told my bro to have gf bring her daughter if she wants....

I'm sure a good time will be had by all. As soon as the eating is over, we'll get some game going and Dad will go read a book or watch TV.

[olevetonahill]

Hope it goes smooth for yall bro. Yall have a great one.

[Soonerjeepman]

Nope, my cousin is a woman.

just messin with ya...

[badger]

I'm sure a good time will be had by all. As soon as the eating is over, we'll get some game going and Dad will go read a book or watch TV.

Planes Trains and Automobiles is a fun thanksgiving movie. Or, you could just start Christmas season early and go with "Christmas Story" :)

[ouwasp]

vet, you'd be proud of me. I have a dear friend, a retired guy. I used to coach football with this old warrior. He has a son stationed overseas, another on the east coast. 'Nam vet. He's often on his own unless he chooses to get together with his ex. Last yr he had hooked up with some old friends, but told me to keep him in mind for next yr.

So this morning I saw a column in the World entitled You Can Be a Family for Someone Lacking One... and thought of him. Within a few minutes he had accepted my invite. Be good to see him tomorrow.

[Turd_Ferguson]

vet, you'd be proud of me. I have a dear friend, a retired guy. I used to coach football with this old warrior. He has a son stationed overseas, another on the east coast. 'Nam vet. He's often on his own unless he chooses to get together with his ex. Last yr he had hooked up with some old friends, but told me to keep him in mind for next yr.

So this morning I saw a column in the World entitled You Can Be a Family for Someone Lacking One... and thought of him. Within a few minutes he had accepted my invite. Be good to see him tomorrow.

Good job!

[olevetonahill]

vet, you'd be proud of me. I have a dear friend, a retired guy. I used to coach football with this old warrior. He has a son stationed overseas, another on the east coast. 'Nam vet. He's often on his own unless he chooses to get together with his ex. Last yr he had hooked up with some old friends, but told me to keep him in mind for next yr.

So this morning I saw a column in the World entitled You Can Be a Family for Someone Lacking One... and thought of him. Within a few minutes he had accepted my invite. Be good to see him tomorrow.

Good on Ya, Ima go to my Sisters, tho a Lot of times I just stay home, Aint no deal to me one way or the other, I do like me that turkey dinner tho.

[ouwasp]

Well, friends, it was a good, uneventful dinner. The lesi daughter was a no-show. Table topics were mostly innocuous but lively discussions about popular TV shows. Bro's gf slipped and called someone she knew a "crazy a$$" because they acted like the Sheldon character on Big Bang Theory. But my Dad didn't hear her, so no harm, no foul.

I paid particular attention during my Dad's mealtime prayer. Never know when or if I'll get to hear him pray before a Thanksgiving meal again; we're getting ready to go to my in-laws in a bit, it'll be our first Thanksgiving without my father-in-law Leo.

I hope all of you have had as pleasant a Thanksgiving as my family has had.

[8timechamps]

Well, friends, it was a good, uneventful dinner. The lesi daughter was a no-show. Table topics were mostly innocuous but lively discussions about popular TV shows. Bro's gf slipped and called someone she knew a "crazy a$$" because they acted like the Sheldon character on Big Bang Theory. But my Dad didn't hear her, so no harm, no foul.

I paid particular attention during my Dad's mealtime prayer. Never know when or if I'll get to hear him pray before a Thanksgiving meal again; we're getting ready to go to my in-laws in a bit, it'll be our first Thanksgiving without my father-in-law Leo.

I hope all of you have had as pleasant a Thanksgiving as my family has had.

Sounds like it was a good time. Glad you and your family were able to get together and enjoy the time.

I can say it's been wonderful on this end too. Full belly & football on TV.

[Soonerjeepman]

Good Wasp....

yes, it was a blessed day. Praying for those that didn't have.

[yermom]

vet, you'd be proud of me. I have a dear friend, a retired guy. I used to coach football with this old warrior. He has a son stationed overseas, another on the east coast. 'Nam vet. He's often on his own unless he chooses to get together with his ex. Last yr he had hooked up with some old friends, but told me to keep him in mind for next yr.

So this morning I saw a column in the World entitled You Can Be a Family for Someone Lacking One... and thought of him. Within a few minutes he had accepted my invite. Be good to see him tomorrow.

or you could be the reason someone is lacking one. i guess it evens out?

[badger]

Well as long as we're giving Thanksgiving recaps :D

When we showed up, the other toddler was napping. Her parents got impatient (even though we said repeatedly not to wake her if she's resting well) so other toddler was a little groggy during meal and initial interaction with my daughter.

After attempting about 15 minutes of table time (we had ours strapped into a seat so she couldn't leave, but the other one squirmed out after declining most everything, possibly due to early nap end), they got to go outside and run around a bunch while doing a lot of laughing. It was actually quite nice weather in Oklahoma yesterday even though it's been freezing cold lately.

The only drama occurred when both girls wanted the same toy: A pink wagon that hauls big blocks. For awhile one pulled while the other rode, but that arrangement didn't last because eventually the other one wanted to ride too. My mom ended up hiding the wagon when both ended up crying over their lesson in sharing.

It was also really cute to see my daughter get huffy when I held her cousin for a brief moment --- she has to share toys, but she will NOT share mommy's lap :)