So my gf of almost 3 years broke up with me 4 days before law school finals

[Jboozer]

Any advice from our older more experienced friends... I can barely concentrate on studying. I'm screwed. haha

[afs]

this is probably the first of many many stressful situations you'll face in your life. Figure out your current priorities and deal with them in that order.

[TheBobbyTrain]

i had that happen last year except i didn't have finals to study for. my advice is to focus on finals however you can, then once finals are over you go get drunk with your friends early and often. just party your *** off. maybe even take a small trip somewhere, find a girl or two or three, live it up and when you get back you'll be a new man. it worked for me.

whatever you do - don't talk to your now ex. i didn't talk to my ex for a month before i even considered gettin my stuff back, giving hers back, etc... that gave me time to become emotionally detached and completely mentally check out of the relationship. best decision i ever made.

[colleyvillesooner]

Sound advice there. Do NOT talk to her until finals are over at minimum. Good luck.

[Frozen Sooner]

Any advice from our older more experienced friends... I can barely concentrate on studying. I'm screwed. haha

Damn. That sucks.

My advice?

Work on your outlines.

Oh, and in Crim make sure you don't attempt to charge someone who's dead or attempt to charge someone who's living with a crime committed in another jurisdiction.

[StoopTroup]

If you take some time during your studying and all you can think of is her....call an escort service so you can get back to work ASAP. :D ;)

Don't let it all distract you. You might not realize the gift she's given you until sometime later.

Good Luck on your studies.

[JohnnyMack]

Go to a strip club and get a handjob from a stripper in the champagne room and then get back to studying and get on with your life.

[NCSooner18]

On the bright side......best friends wife pulled a similar stunt. Now he has a much hotter, nicer wife and pulls in 6 figures a month. Last I heard she was a waitress. Heres wishing a similar fate for you.

[PDXsooner]

you'll be way more pissed at yourself in the future if you let the emotional aftershocks screw up your performance on your finals. focus for the next few days and then deal with the emotions.

in 10 years you'll run into her with her dorky mortgage-sales guy husband and think "god i'm so glad i didn't let that bitch ruin my law school finals".

[Boomer_Sooner_sax]

Go to a strip club and get a handjob from a stripper in the champagne room and then get back to studying and get on with your life.

Seriously, do this. You will totally enjoy every minute of getting some fun and not having to worry about your old woman ;)

[Tulsa_Fireman]

My advice to you.

Start drinking heavily.

[Viking Kitten]

From a chick:

It's okay to be sad about the end of a long-term relationship, but remember, only a total worthless bitch would dump a guy in the circumstances you are describing. So thank your lucky stars that you got rid of her before she REALLY had the chance to screw up your life. In fact, you are lucky you have something else to focus on... put every ounce of energy into your finals right now, there will be plenty of time for mourning later.

As somebody else mentioned above, this is a good life lesson. If you were preparing for a big trial and your wife left you, neither the judge nor your client will cut you one ounce of slack. Neither do professors...My mom had to take her 3L law school finals one week after she buried her own mother (my grandma).

[the_ouskull]

My advice to you.

Start drinking heavily.

I'd listen to him. He's pre-Med.

the_ouskull

[the_ouskull]

this is probably the first of many many stressful situations you'll face in your life. Figure out your current priorities and deal with them in that order.

Oh, and THIS is the most sound advice I've seen so far.

Losing someone that you truly do care about always sucks, but what sucks worse is dwelling on the things you cannot change. Pity leaves no room for growth.

the_ouskull

[proud gonzo]

listen to VK and afs. And wait until AFTER finals to start drinking.

[47straight]

You are not screwed. Pour every negative amount of energy into destroying your exams.

[John Kochtoston]

I'd listen to him. He's pre-Med.

the_ouskull

I thought he was pre-law.

[John Kochtoston]

Oh, and you're better off. I knew my wife was a keeper during my first round of law school finals. Totally supportive of the fact I was going to be a real sumbitch for two weeks.

[OKLA21FAN]

"Man, all you gotta do is find a girl that looks just like her, nail her, and then dump her, man. Get her of your mind." :pop:

[SbOrOiNaEnR]

Heartbreak? Depression? Paying women with negotiable morals for sex? This has ALL the trappings of a SicEm thread.

Seriously dude, tough break. But all this advice is solid. And get yourself into a nice, regular routine that doesn't involve her. Go golfing on Sunday mornings or some other manly activity. Or, better yet, do all the things she HATED when you were together.

[proud gonzo]

law school will be a much more significant factor in the rest of your life than an ex girlfriend.

[olevetonahill]

Fart in her general direction , Ace those exams
then Party like a sombitch

[OUMallen]

Any advice from our older more experienced friends... I can barely concentrate on studying. I'm screwed. haha

I took my Contracts II final the morning of my father's funeral. You'll make it. Compartmentalize and think about it after finals.

[SunnySooner]

Lots of good advice here, I would just add that if you truly cannot concentrate, then take an hour or two and have a little pity party--look at the old pics, listen to all the old songs, etc., just revel in the misery for a while, and then pack it all up and put it away until after the finals, DON'T TALK TO HER UNTIL THEN. Sometimes I have to do this when I really miss the hubby (he's deployed), just let myself be sad for awhile, but I always feel better after and can get on with things without thinking about missing him so much. Hang in there, time really does heal broken hearts, it's just a lot slower than we'd like.

[C&CDean]

Call her up, tell her to come over, do her in the pooper, then kick her to the curb.

You'll feel much better.

[Oldnslo]

All the advice here is good. Crush the exam and then get Girlfriend, the Upgrade.

[sooner_born_1960]

All the advice here is good. Crush the exam and then get Girlfriend, the Upgrade.
All? Really? I don't think you read all of them. :)

[SeattleOUstudent]

Agreed. DONT talk to her till its all over!

[olevetonahill]

I took my Contracts II final the morning of my father's funeral. You'll make it. Compartmentalize and think about it after finals.

This explanes that Apartment Contract ya Messed up on :D

Sorry about yer Lose bro

[85Sooner]

i had that happen last year except i didn't have finals to study for. my advice is to focus on finals however you can, then once finals are over you go get drunk with your friends early and often. just party your *** off. maybe even take a small trip somewhere, find a girl or two or three, live it up and when you get back you'll be a new man. it worked for me.

whatever you do - don't talk to your now ex. i didn't talk to my ex for a month before i even considered gettin my stuff back, giving hers back, etc... that gave me time to become emotionally detached and completely mentally check out of the relationship. best decision i ever made.

Very good advise.

[IB4OU2]

From a chick:

It's okay to be sad about the end of a long-term relationship, but remember, only a total worthless bitch would dump a guy in the circumstances you are describing. So thank your lucky stars that you got rid of her before she REALLY had the chance to screw up your life. In fact, you are lucky you have something else to focus on... put every ounce of energy into your finals right now, there will be plenty of time for mourning later.

As somebody else mentioned above, this is a good life lesson. If you were preparing for a big trial and your wife left you, neither the judge nor your client will cut you one ounce of slack. Neither do professors...My mom had to take her 3L law school finals one week after she buried her own mother (my grandma).

Take this sweet ladies advice! She helped me when I went through some of the same critical and very hard times.

[yermom]

Call her up, tell her to come over, do her in the pooper, then kick her to the curb.

You'll feel much better.

honestly, i'm surprised it took this long for PIITB

[TUSooner]

You are not screwed. Pour every negative amount of energy into destroying your exams.

This^^^.
And forget all that lame BS about whores and hand jobs from strippers. :rolleyes:

[soonerscuba]

I also find a run or trip to the gym helps a lot if you are into and have time for that sort of thing. Good luck.

[yermom]

don't forget Dr. Dre's research on the subject:

http://www.complex.com/blogs/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/unifiedbitchtheory2-1.jpg

trust him. he's a doctor :D

[OKLA21FAN]

THIS (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lesRVU1RgNg&feature=related)

[soonervegas]

Use the pain to help you focus on blowing out your exams. Otherwise the 2017 version of JBoozer and his incredibly hot wife (who doesn't mind bringing an occassional girlfriend home) will be disappointed in you.

[TheHumanAlphabet]

Don't screw your career for a sig other. You will have to live with your career and finals the rest of your life. This girl/woman, probably not and if she broke up with you, you probably don't want her back. Focus on school/career during crunch time, afterwards you can entertain a thought on the gf - if you want.

[SteelClip49]

Women are confused, stupid and fickle (except badger and VK).

Her loss and your gain. Apparently she would rather be with a loser than a successful lawyer in the making.

[badger]

Women are confused, stupid and fickle (except badger and VK).

Thanks... I guess... :O

I hope everyone's well wishes and advice here helps ease your mind a little during the stressful and sad time.

[yermom]

Baj gets confused for one of us enough that she doesn't count for all the negative stereo-types :D

[stoops the eternal pimp]

Thats tough dude....push yourself in your studies and make her regret the day she decided to end it...

She is probably somewhere tellin her friends that she had made you miserable and you wont be able to do well on your finals because you are so upset over her...

I call that "tackling fuel"

[Pricetag]

Use the pain to help you focus on blowing out your exams. Otherwise the 2017 version of JBoozer and his incredibly hot wife (who doesn't mind bringing an occassional girlfriend home) will be disappointed in you.
This sounds like a "Milk: it does a body good" commercial.

[Mjcpr]

Do you have any sex tapes of her that you could disseminate to the public in an attempt to embarass and discredit her?

[fadada1]

had a similar situation happen to me - 2 days before starting training for something i wanted more than anything... and that i had prepared for more than anything.

long story short, it got to me, and i blew an opportunity at something unbelievably special and impressive.

don't let it get to you. someone better will come along in due time. and while you may not forget her, you'll realize how much better your life was without her.

keep your head up and best of luck.

[Jboozer]

1st final down. Whew!

[Viking Kitten]

*high five*

[NormanPride]

http://thenextweb.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/hi.jpg

[badger]

Baj gets confused for one of us enough that she doesn't count for all the negative stereo-types :D

How bout I confuse you some more?
http://i253.photobucket.com/albums/hh48/martyxthexparty/brofist.jpg

Congrats on getting the first exam done :D

[olevetonahill]

1st final down. Whew!

Grats

Keep up the Good werk

[Collier11]

This might help, if you are trying to study or take your test and your mind starts wondering towards her or the situation simply stop, close your eyes, and picture OleVet with a beer in his hand and wearing nothing more than a smile, after that, everything will seem ok

[olevetonahill]

This might help, if you are trying to study or take your test and your mind starts wondering towards her or the situation simply stop, close your eyes, and picture OleVet with a beer in his hand and wearing nothing more than a smile, after that, everything will seem ok

Sound Advise here :cool:

[Frozen Sooner]

1st final down. Whew!

What'd you have first? We did Crim last Thursday and Torts yesterday. After feeling like I gave birth to the reasonable man, I went out and tied one on. Next up is Civ Pro next Wednesday.

[OklahomaRed]

First sign a woman is thinking (dangerous in itself) and they start giving you grief about thinking in a logical and organized fashion and want you to concentrate all your energy and effort on them rather than something like your career and future, then it's become all about them instead of the team! :D

KICK EM' TO THE CURB! :)

YOU'RE BETTER OFF (IN THE LONG RUN) WITHOUT HER.

Leopard can't change their spots. They leave you once, they'll leave you again. Perhaps next time it might be with 3 kids, in debt up to your eyeballs, and her new boyfriend is your "ex" best friend. LOL

[Phil]

I thought he was pre-law.

What's the difference?

[TMcGee86]

quit school and thank God that you just narrowly avoided the two biggest mistakes of your life.

Trust me, I wish I had gotten out while there was still time. Being a lawyer sucks, being a married lawyers sucks donkey balls.

[picasso]

All of my breakups have turned out to be the best thing that had ever happened to me.

[olevetonahill]

Just Do what Ive always done when they split

tx8x3LCnYZw

[Collier11]

masturbate to Roy Clark?

[Crucifax Autumn]

Bitch does you like that???? Buy a gun!

[SicEmBaylor]

This thread reeks of me. I almost thought I drunk posted under a troll name. :D


Honestly dude, if it makes you feel better I'm 6 years past my breakup and I'm just now to the point I get out of bed without first grabbing a bottle of whiskey or a revolver. :D

[Frozen Sooner]

And hey, if you buy a gun and shoot her, under the rule of Kitchen v. K-mart if you're obviously worked up and pissed off when you buy the gun the seller may be held liable for negligently entrusting it to you! See if you can work that case into your Torts exam.

[Frozen Sooner]

This thread reeks of me. I almost thought I drunk posted under a troll name. :D


Honestly dude, if it makes you feel better I'm 6 years past my breakup and I'm just now to the point I get out of bed without first grabbing a bottle of whiskey or a revolver. :D

Couldn't be you. To have law school finals you must have an undergraduate degree. :D

Well, unless you go to Cooley or something.

[SicEmBaylor]

Couldn't be you. To have law school finals you must have an undergraduate degree. :D

Well, unless you go to Cooley or something.

That's just "the man's" rules to keep me from reaching my full potential. It's so hard being an upper-middle class white guy from a small town in mid-America. The deck is totally stacked against me.

[Crucifax Autumn]

I have a sudden urge to masturbate with a gun to Roy Clark music while drinking whiskey with 2 or 3 chicks and watching LA Law.

[SicEmBaylor]

LA Law was an awesome show...

[Collier11]

I have a sudden urge to masturbate with a gun to Roy Clark music while drinking whiskey with 2 or 3 chicks and watching LA Law.

All of the sudden that sounds fun...in seperate rooms of course

[StoopTroup]

Bitch does you like that???? Buy a gun!

I'm pretty sure Vet has a gun. :D

[soonerboomer93]

That's just "the man's" rules to keep me from reaching my full potential. It's so hard being an upper-middle class white guy from a small town in mid-America. The deck is totally stacked against me.

some people might think you reached your full potential when daddy's sperm hit the egg